This is my Tradition 5/7, step 12

Pancake Marathon

The value of Treating things as a new beginning, a fresh start; asking to be relieved of this obsession. the key to let him go, to let life be what it is; to hold no expectations: as expectations are a killer and only work out for you because when you have expectations on somebody else it's a demand.

You may think that there are a thousand different things being done in recovery, really there's just a thousand different ways of saying a few simple things.

Topic

Letting go and giving it to god

acronyms and SLOGANS: Organized by Pancake Marathon

Letting go and giving it to god it is at that point that I have to q-tip, it is true That I can get angry and hurt; at the same time is true that I can add more hurt to any given situation, that I give my focus upon being angry in my stingy thinking. it's at that point that I get to realize that I don't have to act like that, that I cannot isolate from the fact of unity, what can I give more than I can take; everyone is going through something and at the same time how do I say teachable, in the moment, finding strength Within my higher power?

Slogans are wisdom written in shorthand and Acronyms are just the sum/the Virtues, of all that wisdom: WISDOM: When In Self, Discover Our Motives

Slogans (underlined ) blog page Acronyms (bold) blog page Principles (italic): A.A. files

Step 12/to give where credit is due I got all of these readings from "recovery HQ" _ but I put them in a Living life on life's terms and to Better care of the message and you can actually find all of them in Daily Readings and Inspirations

Spiritual principle a day:

July 11, 2024

Compassion for Ourselves

Page 199

"When we have compassion for ourselves, we give ourselves permission to be in the world, and that makes us much more useful to the world."

Living Clean, Chapter 1, "Growing Pains"

"I am my own worst enemy."

We've heard some version of this sentiment from addicts with four days clean, four years, and four decades. "I'm judge, jury, and executioner for myself" is another version of the same sentiment. We struggle with feelings of worthlessness, self-pity, crippling fear. Our disease tells us that we are "not enough" or even that we're unlovable. We remind ourselves of our considerable mistakes or obsess about minor ones. When these thoughts are most rampant, we tend to isolate ourselves from the world, protecting others from having to deal with us and protecting ourselves from having to deal with them. But we've also heard, "An addict's mind is a dangerous neighborhood. You shouldn't wander around it alone."

Self-compassion is one remedy for self-obsession. What does that look like? It's giving ourselves some slack. It's acknowledging, at least for a moment, that we are doing the best we can. It's channeling some of that kindness we more freely extend to others toward ourselves. As we grow, we learn to redirect ourselves toward compassion when we go through difficult times, don't meet our own standards, or feel unworthy of love. We can be gentle with ourselves--and get out of our own way.

Compassion allows us to move forward. We see our value more clearly and are able to exit the "bad neighborhood" of our minds more readily. Getting out of our heads gets us out in the world where we are useful to others. In fact, being of service to others is another key remedy to the mess in our minds.

It takes practice to stop berating ourselves for every struggle and misstep. Even with years of recovery, we aren't always our most trusted ally, but with some compassion, we can switch from the enemy camp.

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Today I dare myself to look in the mirror and say: "Hey, you! You're a good person. You may make mistakes, but you still have a lot to offer. So, crawl out from under your rock--and get out there and rock it!"

Keep It Simple: A brother may not be a friend, but a friend will always be a brother. ---Benjamin Franklin

Many of us come from families that aren't very healthy for us. Many families have lots of love but aren't able to show it. Maybe our parents argued or drank to much. When we share our recovery with them, they may not seem happy with us. They may be doing the best they can, but they don't understand our new way of life.
We can have the love we wanted, but it might not come from our family. We can choose healthy friends to be our new "family." Some friends may seem like the sister or brother we always wanted.
A sponsor can give us advice we never got from our parents. We can have a full, healthy "family life" after all.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me choose good friend who will help me to be the best that I can be.
Action for the Day: The best way to have a friend is to be a friend. What will I do today to be a friend.

NA Just For Today: Humility In Action

"If we are hurting, and most of us do from time to time, we learn to ask for help." Basic Text, p.80
Sometimes recovery gets downright difficult. It can be even more difficult to get humble enough to ask for help. We think, "I have all this time clean. I should be better than this!" But the reality of recovery is simple: whether we have thirty days or thirty years clean, we must be willing to ask for help when we need it.
Humility is a common theme in our Twelve Steps. The program of Narcotics Anonymous is not about keeping up appearances. Instead, the program helps us get the most from our recovery. We must be willing to lay bare our difficulties if we expect to find solutions to problems that arise in our lives.
There's an old expression sometimes heard in Narcotics Anonymous: We can't save our face and our ass at the same time. It isn't easy to share in a meeting when we have a number of years clean only to dissolve into tears because life on life's terms has made us realize our powerlessness. But when the meeting ends and another member comes up and says, "You know, I really needed to hear what you had to say," we know that there is a God working in our lives.
The taste of humility is never bitter. The rewards of humbling ourselves by asking for help sweetens our recovery.
Just for today: If I need help, I will ask for it. I will put humility into action in my life. pg. 203

Daily Reflections: HUMILITY IS A GIFT, p.203

As long as we placed self-reliance first, a genuine reliance upon a
Higher Power was out of the question. That basic ingredient of all humility, a desire to seek and do God's will, was missing.
12 & 12, p.72
When I first came to A.A., I wanted to find some of the elusive quality called humility. I didn't realize I was looking for humility because I thought it would help me get what I wanted, and I would do anything for others if I thought God would somehow reward me for it. I try to remember now that the people I meet in the course of my day are as close to God as I am ever going to get while on this earth. I need to pray for knowledge of God's will today, and see how my experience with hope and pain can help other people; if I can do that, I don't need to search for humility, it has found me.